Happy Tuesday my friends!
I have talked about chores many times on here (click here for more info). With it being summer vacation, I am determined to get my life in order and part of that is making sure that my kids are contributing to the household in some manner.
I have stumbled upon a chore system that is – waitforit – actually WORKING for my two adhd kiddos. Here’s how it works for each of them:
Thing 1 (7th grade)
The main chore I have wanted to pass down to him is the dishes. I grew up doing dishes and I can only assume that my parents celebrated on the day that I took over that chore. Now I can do the same.
The key to make this work is this – HE GETS PAID DAILY.
The salary? $1 a day
He is responsible for loading and unloading and if the dishwasher is full, he has to start it. If we use a lot of dishes, he has to do them all. Either way, at the end of the day, he is getting cash money.
Some people might think that $7 a week is a lot of money. To them I say nothing. I get to have more time to get other stuff done and my dishes are almost always done.
Thing 2 (4th grade)
My biggest goal with her is to try and even the chore load. It’s just SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much easier to not deal with her not doing what she needs to. Since this is not my parenting MO, I needed to come up with a way to get her interested in doing her chores on a regular basis.
Enter the daily pay option.
Her system is structured a little differently. She is on a 5 point system and she can earn $0.10 a day for doing each of them. Because I want it to bother her, if she either doesn’t do any of the items on the list or she makes a bigger mess after I “help” her clean it (which is a HUGE issue for her right now) then I charge her a dollar. Every. Time.
She does NOT want to pay me.
Here’s what her sheet lookes like:
1. Make bed.
2. No clothes on the floor.
- All clothes in basket.
- All clothes hung up.
Why this works for them:
It’s that whole instant gratification/adhd deal. They love that they get cash in hand every day. Do I sometimes forget to pay? Sure. But it works out for them because then they get more bucks at once, which they don’t seem to mind.
I have decided that they can spend their money as they see fit with two exceptions – they can’t buy candy and they have to save at least 25% a week. My plan is to make them “Allowance Jars” out of oatmeal containers so that I can make sure they are complying.
So, if your kids do chores, what works for you? If it doesn’t work, what isn’t working?
As always, leave it in the comments.