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This is a topic that I get asked about a lot. I like to call it “comparison parenting.” We all do it (I think it’s in our nature to do so), but do we really need to?

Here’s a scenario: My son said someone made fun of him because his jacket was too puffy. On one hand, I think the jacket’s fine and who cares what others think. On the other hand, he has had trouble socially in the past, so anything we can do to help ease that, we do. So, what did I do?

I asked some people from work for their opinion.

We do this ALL THE TIME as parents, but do we really need to?

Sometimes, we just need to go with our gut feeling. It’s ok if no one else agrees with it. Who cares? We are raising our kids the way we see fit and screw everyone else.

But what about “It takes a village to raise a child”? Sometimes it IS best to get advice from parents who have been there and done that (and let’s face it, that’s what I try to provide, so I completely hope you feel like you can come to me :) ). Sometimes we need to validate ourselves as parents.

But we also need to have confidence in ourselves too.

Who cares if your best friend, parents, coworker does what you do as a parent? You do what YOU see fit for your child and your family. Period.

Now I want to know – are you a confident parent or comparison parent? If you compare, what are you comparing and what would make you feel more confident? Leave it in the comments! :)

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One Response to Do you comparison parent?

  1. Jamie says:

    I don't think there's anything wrong with canvasing other parents. I know there are situations in my own family where my perception is different than reality and asking a friend "is this too much" or "what would you do" helps me refocus. Sometimes I'm right on. Sometimes I'm a little off. It's not about comparing. Sometimes you need someone to bounce ideas off of and I think that's okay.

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